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              Kathy's Books, Counseling
                   & Spiritual Direction


     Using the liturgical year as her framework, Kathy explores the spirituality of many kinds of mothers and the ways that various aspects of the Christian tradition shed light on the daily and unique holiness of motherhood. "Kathleen Finley weaves the threads of our rich faith tradition into women's experience in a way that both affirms and challenges women to a deeper awareness of the sacred call to motherhood." - May Jo Pederson, lay advisor to the USCC Committee on Marriage and Family

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      For each day of the year this beautifully book--available in either a hardback or paperback edirion--gives a list of holidays, holy days, and notable anniversaries, along with several empty lines to write in your own special events as they happen year after year.

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     Savoring God has, consistently, been one of Kathy's most popular books. Its many fans will be happy to know that now there's a second collection of meditations for "savoring God with all our senses." Prayer can easily involve the ordinary things that we use and come across in our everyday lives. As with the first Savoring God, these brief prayer exercises use all kinds of ordinary things to inspire prayer, from a photograph to a door; from a book to a needle and thread; from a hammer and nails to a seashell.

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     A beautiful collection of short prayers on all kinds of experiences from married life...and don't let the title fool you, it's for all couples, no matter how long they have been married. A great wedding gift, too, of course! A religious sister we know said that her community is using it because so many of the prayers apply to everyday life in a religious community, too! "A nice little 'extra' to include with a wedding gift. The prayers address everyday issues couples will face in the coming years. It would also be nice for couples to receive from their own church when planning their wedding. An unusual but practical book for any couple." - from an reader review

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     A close look at key skills needed by both partners to achieve a lasting marriage, complete with a list of helpful resources and reflection questions for couples and individuals.

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     This book first appeared in 1984. It was the first book to "unpack" the theological insight that the family, in its various forms, is the domestic church, the most basic unit of the Church. Subtitled "Reflections on a Spirituality for the Domestic Church," it won the Thomas More Medal "For a Distinguished Contribution to Catholic Literature." After two editions under the generic title, Building Christian Families, now with a new Preface and some minor revisions it's back in print under its original title, and it still answers, in practical and theological terms, the question, "What does it mean to say that the family is the domestic church?"

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     This easy-to-use book of prayers provides a much-needed resource for families who want to celebrate the everyday events of their lives. Dear God is the ideal way to involve parents, older siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and others in the faith life of young children in their families. It holds the promise of a deeper relationship with God and those we love.

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     Expecting and raising a new baby is an exciting time in life--one filled with hope, anxiety, optimism, and wonder. This collection of prayers for parents feeds the spiritual side of the prospect of imminent parenthood. This book contains a series of simple, kindly, and heartfelt prayers appropriate for all stages of a new child's life, from preconception until the first birthday.

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     We wrote Part Two of this summary of "Catholic Faith for Adults," on the Apostles' and Nicene Creeds. We're surprised at how frequently in our travels people mention having read this book and how they go back to it time after time. "This is an intense book! I personally felt a need to read it slowly over a long period of time as there was much to savor here. The subject matter also lends itself to discussion . . . This book, like the Catechism of the Catholic Church, is divided into four sections: faith, sacraments, morals, and prayer. Each of the four sections is written by a different author (or team of authors) . . . The essays are clear, contemporary, and meaningful." - from an reader review

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Kathy's Counseling & Spiritual Direction

      I have been fascinated by relationships all my life. I think they are key to who we are and how we understand our lives and our relationship to God. I believe that the process of growth toward wholeness, balance and holiness are one and the same, and I am happy to address this dimension, but only when it is comfortable and helpful to a client. I have been privileged to work with couples and individuals for more than 20 years, and I am licensed in the state of Washington as a Mental Health Counselor (#LH 60312591). I earned an M.A. in Counseling Psychology from Gonzaga University and an M.A. in Religious Education from Fordham University. Besides teaching courses on marriage and spirituality at Gonzaga University for 40 years, for many years I have helped prepare engaged couples for marriage at St. Aloysius Parish in Spokane. I have also given numerous workshops and presentations on relationship issues and faith. Also, I'm an experienced spiritual director, which I understand as reflecting on one's spirituality with a trained guide. You can learn more about spiritual direction here. How I Work as a Counselor. . . I use a variety of therapeutic approaches, depending on the needs of the client, but I am especially interested in clarifying interpersonal communication skills and the importance of adult attachment research as essential for our growth. I can also help a client work on issues such as relationship stresses, grief and loss, and life direction issues. I often assign "homework," which can include reading and reflection that I think might be helpful to our therapeutic goals. In couple therapy I may see partners together or separately, depending on the specific needs or goals. I am able to work in a faith context if that is helpful to the client(s). I am also available for spiritual direction, a related but separate activity. When it comes to the role of the therapist, I like the five-point model for the role of the therapist described by John Bowlby, an early researcher on attachment: to provide the client a secure base of trust from which the possibility of more positive relationships can be explored, to help the client examine internal working models of current relationships and what they can expect from others in their present lives, to examine which aspects of internal working models of past relationships work well and which do not, to examine how past relationships influence present functioning, to revise and update the client's working models with the hope of establishing more flexible, organized, thoughtful relationships. How to reach me. . . You can email me by clicking on "Contact Us" at the top of this page. I will respond to you by email or by phone if you give me your number, usually within 24 hours. We can decide how to proceed from there. If you know others I might be able to help, feel free to suggest me to them. I look forward to an opportunity to accompany you or someone you know to greater wholeness and healthiness.

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